Friday, 31 October 2014
Art Work - Amanda Trought - Realityarts
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Welcome to day 31 and the final day of 'Tips for Carers' in the Ultimate Blog Challenge
Each day I have brought you a different aspect of my experience as a carer, to inform you, to bless you and give you some pointers if you are going into the role, or have been in it for a while and just need some new ideas. There is no ‘one size fits all’ but it is important for us to share our experiences with each other, and share those things about our lives that make us unique.
Each post hopefully allowed you to shine new light into your situation and see it differently. I hoped you tried to some of the suggestions or altered them to suit your needs. The one thing I remind myself of is that life is precious and we have been paced here for a purpose.
As I look after my mum I try not to loose sight of who and I celebrate the life I have knowing that I can make an impact. In life we have to make the most of what I can do, knowing each day brings along the gifts of life, celebrating those things that we are grateful for. We each have something that is special within us and whilst we are all in different circumstances and situations we have to find the strength to be more than the role defines.
I recommend that you make sure that you make the most of your time, eat well, get rid of those things that are toxic in your life, and try and give the best of yourself, enabling your light to shine on those around you, especially the one you are caring for. Celebrate and love yourself and If you can find the joy, peace, hope and love in your current circumstances, each day will be a miracle.
As a carer, I don’t allow myself to be defined by the name, As I work my way through the role sharing my experiences and building relationships, I seek help, I ask, and manage to get through each day with a story to tell it is not an easy road, but it can be fulfilling. You are precious, you are loved, and you are appreciated for everything you do.
For now, take a moment to celebrate your life, take time to unearth some of those dreams that were hidden and do one thing that will be a blessing to your life and the one you are caring for.
Thursday, 30 October 2014
Myself along with 7 AMAZING mixed media instructors will bring you an experience like no other. You will get to immerse yourself in color, creativity, techniques, awesome positive energy and inspiring and empowering techniques.
Here is what you can expect when you join us:
- 8 wonderful, creative instructors
- 10 amazing video mixed media main lessons, 1 lesson per week for 10 weeks. PDF Download of each lesson, provided as well.
- 10 eye opening color challenges and background techniques, videos and/or pdf’s provided. 1 challenge per week for 10 weeks.
- 10 positive, creative energy boosts and exercises, videos and/or pdf’s provided. 1 exercise per week for 10 weeks.
- Fun giveaways/prizes.
- Classroom access through December 31, 2015.
- Access to a private My Color is Beautiful Art Facebook Group
We will kick off the fun with a blog hop starting November 1, 2014 and you will be introduced to the rest of the wonderful instructors!
Registration will open on November 11, 2014 and class begins February 2, 2015.
My Color is Beautiful will be hosted in Tiare's creative community Scraps of Color. Membership is free and you will need to sign up for an account and access to the classroom. Sign up here for community access.
Once registration opens and you are registered you will be invited to the classroom.
I am really excited to be part of this wonderful collaboration of creatives and to share my lesson and interact with you on both the Scraps of Color Community and the Facebook Group.
Do make a note that we will be doing a blog hop from the 1st November to the 9th November, where you will be meeting the other instructors, and come back here on Sunday 2nd November and I will be sharing with you what you will be doing in my lesson!
Give yourself permission to breath.
It starts with you, from the time you wake up in the morning the hustle and bustle of the day yet to begin. You make a hundred and one decisions, do the daily chores, look after children and then you have your caring role. You do whatever needs to be done each and every day, day in and day out and you don’t stop.
|Take a breather....|
Sometimes it is hard to see how you can fit anything else into an already busy schedule, but you do. But along with space and time you cannot fit everything in all at once and once again need to place some strategies for dealing with the load because at some point if you keep going at the same rate you will burn out and then you won’t be any use to anyone.
You have to realistically look at what you have on your plate, setting the tone of your day where possible and look at ways in which some of the burden can be lifted off. It starts with you taking what seems like a ‘time out’ and begin to breath, to stop and get off the merry go round of appointments, meetings, long nights and take a breath - that thing that we take for granted.
|Take that time out|
Taking a breath for some might be that walk, it might be coffee with a friend, or going to an art shop or it might be sitting still 5 minutes letting the sun hit your face as you close your eyes and drift off to that ideal place where everything is alright.
I regularly spend time meditating and praying, thinking about a space where my mind can be still, where I can think and just listen to my breath, to the sound of the birds or the sound of children’s laughter in the distance. I am giving myself permission to take time out just to breath.
For now, every day spend 5 minutes with your eyes closed listening to your own breath, hearing the sound of your home, the noises outside to that place where all is well and just listen.
Wednesday, 29 October 2014
Dreaming permits each and everyone of us to be quietly and safely insane every night of our lives...Charles William Dement
Our dreams can hold important information, get into the habit of writing them down it may be hard to begin with but you will start to remember them.
Each Quote Wednesday I share a quote with a photograph that I have taken. Quotes can be so inspiring and uplifting it is a good idea to meditate on the words and make a point of saying something encouraging about your life! Do something great!
Join me next week for the next inspiring quote and image. Blessings
Thinking about the future – Long term plans
Every now and then, I think about what is going to happen to mum as the dementia worsens. You can’t help think about it, and at some stage you have to address it. I wonder how long she has with us, ashamed at the very thought and feeling guilty thinking about myself and how long I would be in this role. I think about the other ailments that silent creep up and one day we find out that we have to make adjustments for them as well.
I recently moved mum into a flat that has been adapted for someone who uses a wheelchair, we were struggling at her old home with the bathroom and getting in and out with her, and the new flat has a wet room with shower so it has eased the stress that we used to have in the morning. Additionally with the wheelchair we were having carry it up and down the stairs every day, and with the new flat there is a lift. I have been mindful to start to anticipate some of her needs that will arise. Rather than wait for things to happen, I have tried to put things in place before they are needed, but also I have been trying to maintain mums health by giving her nutrient rich foods, she has been enjoying the smoothies that I have made from the nutri bullet.
That said, some hard questions will need to be answered even asked and there are things that we are going to have to face. It helps if you can where possible put things in place that will benefit your loved one. With mum, using a wheel chair doesn't mean that we don’t encourage her to walk, and we are trying to maintain her health as much as possible. For some, as their loved ones get sicker they are faced with
the question ‘do we put them into a home’ I have thought about it but knowing what I’ve seen from exposes of homes and what you have read in the paper, I don’t think that mum would survive longer than 6 months if that. When mum went into a respite home while I was away on holiday she walked in when I took her in and had to have a wheel chair out, she could barely hold herself up and that was just after a 2 week stay. I am sure not all homes have the same effect on its clients, but that is my experience.
Essentially you have to start to think about how their illness will progress and what will happen if you were no longer able to physically care for your loved one. This is where the support network, family and friends come in. What you do today will have an impact on the outcome of tomorrow.
For now take a moment to think about your current situation, and what additional things could be put in place to further support you in the long term before they happen.
Tuesday, 28 October 2014
Make each day special, each day is a gift
Each and every day that we can get up and breathe in fresh air, see another sunrise and sunset is special, as well as connecting with loved ones and exploring the life we have been given this is special. Whatever our current circumstances, we are able to enjoy at least one thing in our lives, and even if you are not grateful for what you currently have remember that there is always someone worse off than you.
When you give it some thought and think about what you do have you will see that there is someone who doesn't have all the resources that you have or the opportunities and probably a host of other things, and if you go wider, there are a large proportion of the world that don’t have access to clean running water, or food or a place to lay their head. They don’t have and will never have most of the other things that you have and will on a daily basis take for granted and even get complacent over. Yet those that do not have are making the most of what they do have, they are struggling and living from day to day, and we have a responsibility to help and impact the lives of so many around the world in the simplest of ways – but that is for another post.
I often worry that mum is hating her life right now, thinking about all the things that she use to do that she now can’t do. At times I find myself going into automatic mode when helping her to do something, of course I will help her cause she can’t do it for herself, of course I will because she is my mum, but then in the midst of me helping her do something you would expect to do yourself she says ‘Thank you’.
She says it with gratitude, she says it because she is grateful for the help, and I think even more so grateful for being alive and able to enjoy what may seem limited to others, but to her it’s a life worth living. She may not feel that way all the time, who does, but generally she has found a way to still smile and laugh at life. There are still things that make her chuckle, and what I try not to forget is how precious this moment is. This day that we have been given is unique and I have the choice to celebrate it and try and be all that I can be today, for tomorrow is another day. I can choose to be present in my life or I can choose to worry about all the things that are not happening or that I do not have.
I choose to bring joy into my home and see the wonders that are around me, and the opportunity to be able to make a difference today.
For now think about those little things that bring joy into your home. Look at the gifts that you have been blessed with among what look like ashes and celebrate those gifts.
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