Wednesday 2 May 2012
What a Challenge!
If you missed any of the posts for the A-Z Challenge you can see them below. I will be sharing about the journey with the topic being so close to me about my mother with dementia on the 7th May. I will let the dust settle and reflect on all the things that came up. I hope you have been blessed with the posts as much as it has blessed me to write, and your comments have really been encouraging. Over the next few weeks I will also be sharing some news, I am quite excited about and its been a long time coming....for now blessings and hope you are having a blessed week.
A is for Alzheimer’s, B is for Behaviour, C is for Carer, D is for Dependant, E is for Enough, F is for Fear, G is for Guilt, H is for Health Professionals, I is forIdentity, J is for Judgement K is for Knowledge, L is for Love, M is for Motherhood, N is for Neighbourhood, O is for Opportunities P is for Purpose, Q is for Quietness, R is for Regret, S is for Strategies, T is for Tradition, U is for Understanding, V is for Value, W is for Websites, X is for Xerox, Y is for Yearn Z is for Zephyr
These posts were part of the A-Z Challenge which took part during the month of April. I have been sharing about my experience as a carer to a mother with Dementia. If you would like to know more join the Arts in Health Network and also check out my website for information on some of the work I have done with Creativity and Dementia. Do check back for a reflection post taking place on the 7th May 2012.
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Sunday 29 April 2012
365 Days of Colour - Flower of the Day 321 - 327
A straight path
Sometimes it isn’t the winding road which leads to mystery
and surprise. At times the straight
path unfolds and brings us treasures beyond our comprehension.
Day 321
Reflection
The hard
times in your life will develop the pearls of wisdom...
Quote
If art is not to be life-enhancing, what is it to be? ...May
Sarton
Scripture But now, thus say the Lord ‘Do not fear, for I have
redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are Mine!’ Isaiah 43:1
Day 322
Reflection
Time to start
over
Quote
Art and works of art do not make an
artist; sense and enthusiasm and instinct do. ...Friedrich Von Schlegel
Scripture
The Lord’s hand is not so
short that it cannot save; neither is His ear so dull that it cannot hear. Isaiah 59:1
Day 323
Reflection
Be brave, all
things are possible
Quote
Expose yourself to your
deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks
and vanishes. You are free. ...Jim Morrison
Scripture
The one who sows
to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Galatians 6:8
Day 324
Reflection
Don’t worry, it will be alright
Quote
Art thaws even the frozen, darkened soul, opening it to
lofty spiritual experience. ...Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn
Scripture
I pray
that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with
all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of
Christ. Ephesians 3:17-18
Day 325
Reflection
As a work in
progress, go easier on yourself
Quote
Fear is the
reason for making art. It is a means to freedom. ...Ilya Kabakov
Scripture
The needy will not always be forgotten, nor the hope of the afflicted perish
forever. Psalm 9:18
Day 326
Reflection
There is
always tomorrow, you have a chance to start over!
Quote
Art is the only way to run away, without leaving home. ...Twyla Tharp
Scripture
For whatever was written in earlier time was written for our instruction, that
through perseverance and the encouragement
of the Scriptures we might have hope. Romans 15:4
Day 327
Reflection
You are able
to do all that you set your mind to!
Quote
Sufficient
to today are the duties of today. Don’t waste life in doubts and fears, spend yourself
on the work before you; well assured that the right performance of this hour’s
duties will be the best preparation for the hours or ages that follow it. ...Ralph
Waldo Emerson
Scripture
The Lord is faithful, and He will strengthen and
protect you from the evil one. 2 Thessalonians 3:3
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Z is for Zephyr
It came on without warning, there were no loud
noises a fanfare just a few tell tale signs. It
blew in as if on a gentle breeze, we all felt it as it brushed past us, noticing
slight things but not really seeing as it settled at mums door. Mum embraced all that she is and met it head
on, and defines the world to mean something for her despite the situation.
She dances as it breezes through her memory, some became distant and others drifted in and out like the fallen leaves of autumn, yet, holding no regret she faces each day as new. She has been a comfort and support as she still holds on to her humour and grace - she is all that she needs to be.
She dances as it breezes through her memory, some became distant and others drifted in and out like the fallen leaves of autumn, yet, holding no regret she faces each day as new. She has been a comfort and support as she still holds on to her humour and grace - she is all that she needs to be.
The dementia almost forces us to learn to use our senses in
a very different way, learn a new
language, see our lives differently. We have each been called for a purpose, to touch each
others lives, dig deeper make more effort, and go that extra mile as the
lives of generations are changed.
Words so far....
A is for Alzheimer’s, B is for Behaviour, C is for Carer, D is for Dependant, E is for Enough, F is for Fear, G is for Guilt, H is for Health Professionals, I is forIdentity, J is for Judgement K is for Knowledge, L is for Love, M is for Motherhood, N is for Neighbourhood, O is for Opportunities P is for Purpose, Q is for Quietness, R is for Regret, S is for Strategies, T is forTradition, U is for Understanding, V is for Value, W is for Websites, X is for Xerox, Y is for Yearn
These posts are part of the A-Z Challenge taking place during the month of April. I have been sharing about my experience as a carer to a mother with Dementia. If you would like to know more join the Arts in Health Network and also check out my website for information on some of the work I have done with Creativity and Dementia.
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Saturday 28 April 2012
Y is for Yearn
I do sometimes long for things to go back to how they used to when mum
didn’t have dementia, to have a bit of what I think is normality. But if it did, perhaps I wouldn’t have seen
so much of her, wouldn’t have got to know her like I have, to listen to her
stories as she tells them over and over again of how she met my dad.
Those stories some how brings his memory to life even though he has been gone for over 20 years but also brings me comfort. There came a point where it didn’t matter how many times mum told the story as she became animated - she remembered him calling out to her as she walked by and she turned coyly and asked ‘who me’ – she had actually noticed him before and wanted to catch his attention. We never heard the stories before the dementia and she never danced, but now she loves to sing and dance and calls herself ‘the dancing queen’ after the Abba song.
Yes I do sometimes yearn for a good night undisturbed sleep when I am there, but also I appreciate my life more and it is most certainly richer despite all the ups and downs.
Those stories some how brings his memory to life even though he has been gone for over 20 years but also brings me comfort. There came a point where it didn’t matter how many times mum told the story as she became animated - she remembered him calling out to her as she walked by and she turned coyly and asked ‘who me’ – she had actually noticed him before and wanted to catch his attention. We never heard the stories before the dementia and she never danced, but now she loves to sing and dance and calls herself ‘the dancing queen’ after the Abba song.
Yes I do sometimes yearn for a good night undisturbed sleep when I am there, but also I appreciate my life more and it is most certainly richer despite all the ups and downs.
Words so far....
A is for Alzheimer’s, B is for Behaviour, C is for Carer, D is for Dependant, E is for Enough, F is for Fear, G is for Guilt, H is for Health Professionals, I is forIdentity, J is for Judgement K is for Knowledge, L is for Love, M is for Motherhood, N is for Neighbourhood, O is for Opportunities P is for Purpose, Q is for Quietness, R is for Regret, S is for Strategies, T is forTradition, U is for Understanding, V is for Value, W is for Websites, X is for Xerox
These posts are part of the A-Z Challenge taking place during the month of April. I have been sharing about my experience as a carer to a mother with Dementia. If you would like to know more join the Arts in Health Network and also check out my website for information on some of the work I have done with Creativity and Dementia.
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Friday 27 April 2012
X is for Xerox (copy)
Living with dementia some times reminds me of a Xerox. It
can feel as if you don’t have the original person you grew up with but the copy
of the person who is unable to do all those things you took for granted. I always thought mum would still be giving me advice and our relationship
would move on to the next stage of mother/adult daughter relationship. When
I was ready to listen she was slowly retreating....
I often imagine how she would express what it is like to have this unknown dancing partner I try and put myself in her well worn shoes, which is not often as looking after the practicalities can be a welcome release from the emotional side. Thinking about what she is thinking can bring up a whole different set of dialogues that sometimes go like this:
I often imagine how she would express what it is like to have this unknown dancing partner I try and put myself in her well worn shoes, which is not often as looking after the practicalities can be a welcome release from the emotional side. Thinking about what she is thinking can bring up a whole different set of dialogues that sometimes go like this:
"People suddenly don't seem to understand they repeat themselves, ignore you or get annoyed at the things that you do. You don’t quite do it quickly enough or the right way they sigh and breath heavily. Their words jumbling up and they expect you to understand or they speak slowly as if you can't catch their words. A world where sound is different, sometimes things are loud, magnified and distorted. They can’t see those things that crawl on the floor, so you pretend they don’t exist, nor can they see the others that often meet us in what they keep saying is my house. It looks different and smells different and there are new people there who wander from room to room sitting and staring as if lost.
Amanda sometimes speaks in a tone like I’m her child, I never thought the tables would turn I never used to rely on anyone to help me, I tell her not to use that tone with me and I play along for a quiet life, but I do miss my mum. These bones not quite what they used to be. I ache as I get out of bed and then the alarm goes off, and they rush in your room - you sometimes don’t get a chance to breath, there is always someone there telling me what I should do, it is very different to how it use to be...."
It is different, I struggle to remember what it was like
before, I've adapted as she changes and when I think about how she must feel I give her a bit of space.....so much has changed. I cannot pretend I've got it all together or know all the ins and outs, but what I will try and do is face them head on and grab them with both hands and deal with each day as it comes.
Words so far....
A is for Alzheimer’s, B is for Behaviour, C is for Carer, D is for Dependant, E is for Enough, F is for Fear, G is for Guilt, H is for Health Professionals, I is forIdentity, J is for Judgement K is for Knowledge, L is for Love, M is for Motherhood, N is for Neighbourhood, O is for Opportunities P is for Purpose, Q is for Quietness, R is for Regret, S is for Strategies, T is forTradition, U is for Understanding, V is for Value, W is for Websites
These posts are part of the A-Z Challenge taking place during the month of April. I have been sharing about my experience as a carer to a mother with Dementia. If you would like to know more join the Arts in Health Network and also check out my website for information on some of the work I have done with Creativity and Dementia.
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Wednesday 25 April 2012
W is for Websites
I thought I would list some of the great resources that I have come across over the years that have really helped not only for people who have dementia, but for those who are carers. There are a range of websites that have provided information and encouragement.
Arts in Health - NHS Network
Arts in Healthcare aims to promote, share and encourage the use of art and creativity in the healthcare environment. - This is a network that I started to encourage those involved with the arts to collaborate and share information.
Arts 4 Dementia
To work in partnership with existing agencies to inspire and r;e-energise people living with dementia in the community, to bring fulfilment to their lives - and provide opportunities for quality time with their carers and loved ones - through engagement with their chosen art form.
Arts and Dementia Network
is a forum for the North East of England which aims to bring together and support professionals working in the arts, health and social care, who are interested in providing opportunities for people with dementia to engage in arts activity.
Culture and Wellbeing
Resources for creativity and health
London Arts in Health Forum
London Arts in Health Forum is a membership organisation which aims to develop the role of culture in wellbeing and to promote and support arts in health activity across London and nationally.
There are so many more organisations out there, if you have come across any or you are an artist interested in sharing information join the Arts in Health Network and leave your details, from time to time we would like to feature any work of artists that involves creativity and health.
I also write and create resources that link the arts and health - through art journals, art work, images, and a patreon network you can also check them out:
Art and Creativity website
I am a mixed media artist and create art sculptures and wall hangings
Art Patreon
Creative videos art journal video tutorials, rewards and more
Gardening Patreon
Horticultural therapy, gardening in the caribbean
Realityarts on Amazon
Hints and tools, books and more as you journey into creativity
Culture and Wellbeing
Resources for creativity and health
London Arts in Health Forum
London Arts in Health Forum is a membership organisation which aims to develop the role of culture in wellbeing and to promote and support arts in health activity across London and nationally.
There are so many more organisations out there, if you have come across any or you are an artist interested in sharing information join the Arts in Health Network and leave your details, from time to time we would like to feature any work of artists that involves creativity and health.
I also write and create resources that link the arts and health - through art journals, art work, images, and a patreon network you can also check them out:
Art and Creativity website
I am a mixed media artist and create art sculptures and wall hangings
Art Patreon
Creative videos art journal video tutorials, rewards and more
Gardening Patreon
Horticultural therapy, gardening in the caribbean
Realityarts on Amazon
Hints and tools, books and more as you journey into creativity
Words so far....
A is for Alzheimer’s, B is for Behaviour, C is for Carer, D is for Dependant, E is for Enough, F is for Fear, G is for Guilt, H is for Health Professionals, I is forIdentity, J is for Judgement K is for Knowledge, L is for Love, M is for Motherhood, N is for Neighbourhood, O is for Opportunities P is for Purpose, Q is for Quietness, R is for Regret, S is for Strategies, T is for Tradition, U is for Understanding, V is for Value
These posts are part of the A-Z Challenge taking place during the month of April. I have been sharing about my experience as a carer to a mother with Dementia. If you would like to know more join the Arts in Health Network and also check out my website for information on some of the work I have done with Creativity and Dementia.
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Tuesday 24 April 2012
V is for Value
As I look at my mother I truely value our relationship and I still see hope. I know that if we focus on the things that
she can do we will have a much more rewarding encounter. She can still communicate, laugh, and in some
instances learn. She still has a kind
word to say to those she meets and asks you if you are alright.
When encouraged she can also make you laugh and you forget that it is she that is dependant on you. I sometimes look at my mother and wonder when I reach her age if my son will find qualities in me to celebrate and I hope I impart to him the importance of valuing relationships.
When encouraged she can also make you laugh and you forget that it is she that is dependant on you. I sometimes look at my mother and wonder when I reach her age if my son will find qualities in me to celebrate and I hope I impart to him the importance of valuing relationships.
Words so far....
A is for Alzheimer’s, B is for Behaviour, C is for Carer, D is for Dependant, E is for Enough, F is for Fear, G is for Guilt, H is for Health Professionals, I is forIdentity, J is for Judgement K is for Knowledge, L is for Love, M is for Motherhood, N is for Neighbourhood, O is for Opportunities P is for Purpose, Q is for Quietness, R is for Regret, S is for Strategies, T is for Tradition, U is for Understanding
These posts are part of the A-Z Challenge taking place during the month of April. I have been sharing about my experience as a carer to a mother with Dementia. If you would like to know more join the Arts in Health Network and also check out my website for information on some of the work I have done with Creativity and Dementia.
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U is for Understanding
Trust in the Lord
with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways
acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight...Proverbs 3:5-6
I have tried to understand why and how mum has dementia,
why our family, why now, why after looking after my dad did
she then go on to develop it and what other factors played a hand - was it the isolation, being consumed by dads illness?,
loosing a support network?, could it have been her high blood pressure, depression, food or environmental? What was the
trigger...
With so much people being affected it makes you wonder why a cure cannot yet be found, we hear so much information - suggestions and solutions in the news papers every other day. In undersanding the frailty of the life we sometimes take for granted things that we can do now. I know that in my own understanding I do not hold the answers but we can often miss the now as we focus on what we can no longer do.....
With so much people being affected it makes you wonder why a cure cannot yet be found, we hear so much information - suggestions and solutions in the news papers every other day. In undersanding the frailty of the life we sometimes take for granted things that we can do now. I know that in my own understanding I do not hold the answers but we can often miss the now as we focus on what we can no longer do.....
Words so far....
A is for Alzheimer’s, B is for Behaviour, C is for Carer, D is for Dependant, E is for Enough, F is for Fear, G is for Guilt, H is for Health Professionals, I is forIdentity, J is for Judgement K is for Knowledge, L is for Love, M is for Motherhood, N is for Neighbourhood, O is for Opportunities P is for Purpose, Q is for Quietness, R is for Regret, S is for Strategies, T is for Tradition
These posts are part of the A-Z Challenge taking place during the month of April. I have been sharing about my experience as a carer to a mother with Dementia. If you would like to know more join the Arts in Health Network and also check out my website for information on some of the work I have done with Creativity and Dementia.
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Monday 23 April 2012
365 Days of Colour - Flower of the Day 314 - 320
Peace
In the peace and stillness we are able to think, to gather
our thought for the day, solve a problem come up with the answer to the
mystery, we can heal. In the peace we
really get to listen to our surroundings and find the beauty around us.
Day 314
Day 314
Reflection
Pay more
attention to want matters most..
Quote
Art is the
journey of a free soul. ...Alev Oguz
Scripture
Not that we are competent
in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from
God. 2 Corinthians 3:5
Day 315
Reflection
You will soar
like the eagle
Quote
Art is the demonstration that
the ordinary is extraordinary. ...Amedee Ozenfant
Scripture
And Jesus
said unto them, ‘I am the bread of life; he that cometh to Me shall never
hunger; and he that believeth on Me shall never thirst.’ John 6:35
Day 316
Reflection
You always
have a choice, don’t settle for what makes you feel small!
Quote
I have accepted fear as a part of life- specifically the
fear of change… I have gone ahead despite the
pounding in my heart that says: turn back....
Erica Jong
Scripture
He gives strength to the
weary, and to him who lacks might He increases power. Isaiah 40:29
Day 317
Reflection
Time to be
still.....
Quote
Art is not the bread, but the wine
of life. ...Jean Paul Richter
Scripture
No discipline seems pleasant at
the time, but painful. Later on,
however; it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have
been trained by it. Hebrews 12:11
Day 318
Reflection
Enjoy the
life you currently lead don’t just endure it
Quote
When you have confidence, you can have a lot of fun. And when you have fun, you
can do amazing things. ...Joe Namath
Scripture
...Jesus said, ‘If you
hold to my teaching, you are really My disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth
will set you free.’ John 8 31-32
Day 319
Reflection
Stand up for
what you believe in and you won’t regret it
Quote
It’s easy to get bogged down in the circumstantial and mundane, but if we
connect to our passion, that in itself will be regenerative; we won’t have to
wait for the energy, it will be there. ...Nina Simonos
Scripture
The
world is passing away, but also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God
abides forever. 1 John 2:17
Day 320
Reflection
Be honest
with yourself
Quote
I could never convince the
financiers that Disneyland was feasible
because dreams offer too little collateral. ...Walt Disney
Scripture
And
the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and
minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7
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