Sometimes in the midst of everything mum goes quiet, there
is a stillness about her as if she is listening to her own thoughts and seeing
her own insights. She is captivated by
the moment and moves her head as if she has gained a revelation.
When I ask her what she was thinking and she looks at me with an amused look on her face, an expression that seems to be saying "there is so much for you to understand about life". Those moments sometimes makes me sad because I imagine she is confused, it is something I can’t share with her and she can’t explain her thoughts, but at other times I realise that these moments of stillness can also be her way of gaining understanding and reflecting - bringing clarity, maybe it is an aha moment!
When I ask her what she was thinking and she looks at me with an amused look on her face, an expression that seems to be saying "there is so much for you to understand about life". Those moments sometimes makes me sad because I imagine she is confused, it is something I can’t share with her and she can’t explain her thoughts, but at other times I realise that these moments of stillness can also be her way of gaining understanding and reflecting - bringing clarity, maybe it is an aha moment!
Words so far....
A is for Alzheimer’s, B is for Behaviour, C is for Carer, D is for Dependant, E is for Enough, F is for Fear, G is for Guilt, H is for Health Professionals, I is forIdentity, J is for Judgement K is for Knowledge, L is for Love, M is for Motherhood, N is for Neighbourhood, O is for Opportunities P is for Purpose
These posts are part of the A-Z Challenge taking place during the month of April. I have been sharing about my experience as a carer to a mother with Dementia. If you would like to know more join the Arts in Health Network and also check out my website for information on some of the work I have done with Creativity and Dementia.
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I hope it is amused and not bemused. I think dementia is something which is so difficult for the carer to handle. We don't know really how difficult it is for the patient.
ReplyDeleteyou are a positive person! and i love your flowers/colors of the days!
ReplyDeleteHello, stopping by from the A-Z challenge and am looking forward to reading more!
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Jo, your right, we can only imagine how difficult it must be.
ReplyDeleteTonja, thanks for stopping by.
Tara, great to have you here!
Elayne, many thanks for you visit will stop by your blog.
Hi Amanda .. my mother just enjoys quietness - and I sit and hold her hand ... sometimes (often perhaps!) I struggle to sit still - or I might have the tv on very low, or read a book if I can get comfortable - re her hospital bed etc ..
ReplyDeleteYour mother may just enjoy life without the cacophony for a while ..
But you're doing so well and as you say we never really know - as long as they're content ... then I relax.
With thoughts - Hilary