Robert was loving and encouraging and had 3 gorgeous children and in 2009 he was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma. He fought the disease for 4 years in the percentage of people where the chemo and other debilitating drugs had little effect, the cancer spread all over his body.
Surely we thought, a Bone Marrow transplant would help - as his sisters we were initially encouraged only to be told we were not a match - how could it be?
As I look back I there were many things that I could have done differently, and we can't beat ourselves up as we did what we could at the time, I didn't want to deal with the possibility that he wouldn't pull through and hid behind caring for my mother. The guilt creeps in, the 'would haves', 'should haves', and 'didn't do enough' start to ridicule you for being less than you thought you were. But you have to make room for action, we will not accept ill health and disease as our fate and fight to find remedies, cures and prevention measures.
Death will come to us all, and we don't want to face it with any regrets. So now that you have time on your side, be it a day, a week, month or even a year, make the most of it!
I share some of the journey of the time we held on to hope that things would be alright and he would stay with us in the following posts:
Where ever you are in the world YOU CAN make a difference, find your local organisation and support their work.
Here in Barbados one of the organisations we have is The Myeloma Lymphoma & Leukaemia Foundation of Barbados you can support by becoming a member $25 and support the events and initiatives that they put on. We attended their Annual Tea Party, they have a number of acts performing, and it is a lovely event, a lot of work goes into organizing it.
|Tea Party, always well attended!|
|Tea Party Dance Troupe|
|Co-Founder/President - Hyacinth Grimes|
|Tea Party Young Steel Pan Band, excellent!|
|Information available at their stall in Sky Mall|
|Member - Daphne Springer sharing her knowledge of blood cancers in Barbados|
Why not think of ways that you can donate or raise funds and do your part.
We also have a fund raising page in Roberts memory which is supporting Myeloma UK, and Cancer Research please help raise funds for more research, if we all do our bit we can one day find cures to prevent others from loosing their loved ones.
IF YOU WISH TO REGISTER AS A POTENTIAL BONE MARROW, BLOOD OR ORGAN DONOR VISIT:
ACLT Office - Tel no. 020 8240 4480, 7A Rathbone Square, Tanfield Road, Croydon, CR0 4HA Please call ACLT office to book a 30 minute appointment.
NATIONAL BLOOD SERVICE; BLOOD DONATION CENTRES Tel 0300 123 2323
Anthony Nolan Register Tel no. 0303 303 0303, You must be aged between 16 and 30 and generally healthy
DKMS - DELETE BLOOD CANCER Tel no. 020 8735 4230To everyone over 30 who can't join the Anthony Nolan bone marrow register. You can now join via DKMS ‘Delete Blood Cancer' Please CLICK HERE They will register potential bone marrow donors from 17 to 55 years. You must weigh over 7st 12Ibs in weight
Robert, see, your memory lives on in our hearts through your children, family and friends! So too all those who remember family members and friends who have died from Cancer.